That is: the statement “I’m only going to marry the person that gives me the best sex of my life” or even saying that sex has to happen after 10 dates, to find out if “this is really going to work”.
The consequences are massive:
From the perspective of the male:
- You’re almost guaranteed to get VD, which causes infertility and lifelong disability (e.g. increases risk of dementia). Not the play if you want kids.
- As soon as you spend time alone, she can accuse you of rape; which, now you’re rolling the dice on her sending you to prison for 10 years and/or robbing you of millions of dollars.
- She can decide to have a kid, so you having sex with her after 10 dates, effectively commits you to her for the next 20 years. (Make sure to wash out or flush your condoms down the toilet)
From the perspective of the female:
- You’re almost guaranteed to get VD, which causes infertility and lifelong disability (e.g. increases risk of dementia). Not the play if you want kids (~75% of women eventually have children).
- As soon as you spend time alone, he can rape you. Even if you get a criminal conviction, it won’t change the fact that he wrecked you physically and emotionally, nor will it stop you from getting pregnant.
- If you do get pregnant – if you don’t think the guy measures up, one could consider that you would abort the useless child. However, what happens if you do like the guy? On the one hand, it makes no sense to have an abortion, if you know you want kids eventually. On the other hand, did you really mean to commit to this guy for the next 20 years, after 10 dates, and one sexual encounter?