That is: the statement “I’m only going to marry the person that gives me the best sex of my life” or even saying that sex has to happen after 10 dates, to find out if “this is really going to work”.
Note: it boils down to whether you can even try dating someone who thinks like this, which really means, can you even use a sex-skewed dating app like Tinder, or hang with that kind of crowd searching for mates.
From the perspective of the male:
- As soon as you spend time alone, she can accuse you of rape; which, now you’re rolling the dice on her sending you to prison for 10 years and/or robbing you of millions of dollars.
- She can decide to have a kid, so you having sex with her after 10 dates, effectively commits you to her for the next 20 years.
From the perspective of the female:
- As soon as you spend time alone, he can rape you. Even if you get a criminal conviction, it won’t change the fact that he wrecked you physically and emotionally, nor will it stop you from getting pregnant.
- If you do get pregnant – if you don’t think the guy measures up, one could consider that you would abort the useless child. However, what happens if you do like the guy? On the one hand, it makes no sense to have an abortion, if you know you want kids eventually. On the other hand, did you really mean to commit to this guy for the next 20 years, after 10 dates, and one sexual encounter?
That is, 10-date sex only is correct if 10 dates are sufficient, to know that you completely can trust someone else, and that you want to spend the next 20 years with them. For instance, in examining the history of divorces, we know this isn’t close to sufficient; the typical marriage that is contracted at this time frame, has significantly lower chances of success.