Because you are giving any more or less attractive white girls you have, a multi-million-dollar meal ticket, and the freedom to have whatever family or sex life they want. Anything you hear about how the average white woman doesn’t have good choices or inevitably suffers under men, is not the reality of the free Western world in the 2010s and beyond.
My normal position as a reporter and adviser is that of someone trying to give a gift based upon thoughtful review, logic, etc. That typically leads to one correct conclusion or way of thinking. Here, I more want to convey the anchor points that one would consider in the analysis, and leave it to you to make the right choice for what you want – but understand that in some cases, the decision process is trivial.
Worldwide, normally we consider that women are slaves, underclass, or similar. This isn’t merely because of e.g. the Pakistani grip over females, but it relates to the large numbers of street prostitutes. Yes, courtesans and other well-cultivated sex workers (even Elon Musk’s baby mamas) can earn a hefty income, maintaining an opulent lifestyle. One also might consider that if women are sought after with dowries and looked after in the home, that they might enjoy a sort of secure social and financial position, even if the actual relationship is time-poor (e.g. marrying a hedge funder) or the male is demanding things are his way. You can’t say the same of Bangkok underage sex workers, nor, in a non-sexual context, can you say the same of the average female African farmer. Worldwide, people are surplus, so the relatively high-value and low-barrier-to-entry sex work is going to attract, and in some cases compel, poor females.
Moreover, we have to recall who starts single and stays single. In the West, it’s the people with dark skin, especially the ones who are fat. The common plight of the big black woman in the 48 provinces is trying to find a brother who will treat her right, both because these women aren’t as desirable, and also because a relatively large number of black males have done e.g. time in prison, making it difficult for a woman to take a chance on them.
The first question you would ask: if women historically and currently face a great deal of economic and social obstacles, leading them to forced motherhood, sex slavery, marrying down with high risk of relationship problems, etc., then why would you have a female child? Men historically have held the power in business, government, the military, society, and in family life, so why would you roll the dice by having a female whose essential social position is at least the underclass?
To start: those who study love and relationships are well acquainted with head-scratchers: people who improbably stay together, people who fall in love with the wrong people, all manner of irrational behavior.
I’m still trying to digest one:
https://www.wsj.com/articles/military-wife-meth-addiction-agonizing-journey-back-11670024403
Long story short, this white woman (great thanks to her for telling her story, it’s hard to get the truth), who isn’t that attractive, bailed out on her husband and young child, to chase meth highs. The usual horror stories ensue, including a stint in prison. She gets out of prison, links up with someone she knew before she became an addict, and they lived happily ever after.
Another data point: there is active trade in brides (often kidnapped and misled) from North Korea, Indochina, etc. to the 22 provinces of China, which notionally we attribute to the gross sex imbalance caused by the 22-provinces’ one-child policies. Note, however, the point about kidnapping yellow and brown people, vs. dark-skins from South Asia and Africa.
A basic point: fire up any dating app anywhere in the world, and put some white, or even just attractive, female profile pictures on it. Watch as you are inundated with proposals. Fruther consider that typically men pay tens of thousands of dollars to matchmakers, not women.
A further data point: if females were in such great surplus, wouldn’t it be difficult for single mothers to get dates with reasonably attractive men? Such is not the case – with 5 minutes of Internet browsing, you can find the whirlwind tales of single mother dating, in which they pull dozens of sexually attractive men for dates (even if as husbands they wouldn’t work out).
All of these things exist in the context that in the American Empire, the family law has been hostile to fathers in divorce for decades. Any successful man can expect to pay more than a hundred thousand dollars a year between child support and alimony, to see his kids no more than 50% of the time. The financial case for surrogates and IVF is only nontrivial if you consider that you probably will have a happy marriage; the notional 70% divorce rate for marriages to single mothers does not support that assumption. If we lived under the old regime, in which a divorced woman was in a real bad spot, then a high male demand for relationships would seem indicated; but when the deck is stacked against males in childbearing relationships, that’s a factor that one would think would reduce demand for females. Hence, the lively markets despite the factors that should reduce market activity, indicate females’ high pricing power and social status.
As for the matter of choice in having children: in the modern West the female holds all the power (and rightfully so, e.g. given the health damage and risks of pregnancy). She alone chooses the means of birth control, whether to abort, and likely, whether to give the child up for adoption at birth. By contrast, we attempt to capture the many anecdotes of male entrapment by the semi-supported conjecture that 10% of pregnancies are female-initiated, to keep the man or to gain child support.
(While there’s also the recent matter of an American woman being able to accuse even her husband of rape and get paid, here I am more trying to convey the points based on a semi-functional family law, instead of the current absurdity.)
These indications would lead us to reverse our thinking in Western societies. Historically we consider that a man controls his destiny, and in cases like being a soldier, professional athlete, etc. that clearly still is the case; you would not want to be trying to avoid ACL tears as a lady soccer player, nor getting paid less for the same amount of work. But in matters of the heart and the family, the above indications show that the average white woman has many more options: she can choose to work, stay home, have kids, pets, a husband, stay single, play the field, whatever she wants.
So in the calculations about children, we not only talk about e.g. I want a traditional Chinese or Indian family, kids that look like me, do they have genetic diseases, short, predisposition to weight gain, etc. we also talk about what kind of freedom and lifestyle we can give our kids. Particularly, you ask the question: is your child going to be happier, as even an average white female with all of these options, or is your child going to be happier as a man with NBA genetics who has to bust his butt to get what he wants, and even then is at the mercy of the whims of his women? In the case of IVF, the correct choice is obvious. If you can’t get an acceptable marriage with a woman who looks like you, nor a great marriage overall, the correct choice is obvious. If you are a male close to white, the correct choice is obvious.